Bar Rafaeli. She was named, Maxim's "hottest" this year. She said in a recent interview that she is currently single, but that she never gets approached by guys. Possibly, too intimidating. The "hottest" woman can't get a date.... what does that tell you. Looks don't mean a thing!!!
It's called being approachable, ladies and gentleman. When I was a young girl, going through a severe awkward time, I used to pretend I was looking out of Cindy Crawford's eyes. That gave me confidence, until I passed by a mirror and was greatly disappointed. Oh crap, who's idea was it again that I should have bangs?!??
Fashion, style, hair color, height, weight, complexion, etc. all add up to complete your appearance. All factors in attraction. However, if you aren't approachable in Chanel or sweatpants... honey, the problem lies within you.
I have found that the keys to being approachable, the simple fundamentals of it, are confidence, good posture, body language, and a smile.
CONFIDENCE: FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. Enter every room with your head up. Survey the room slowly. Walk tall. Good posture is often a sign of physical confidence. Anyone approaching you is more nervous and has more pride on the line, so revel in that thought!
GOOD POSTURE: Standing with bad posture is only chic in Vogue, in a Dolce & Gabbana ad. Hunch-back chic is so 2008. Relax your shoulders back and down. If you are in high heels, tuck your butt and engage your core. You look like you were skipped by evolution when you lean forward at the hips to compensate for your balance on your toes. Same goes for walking in heels, lead with your pelvis, not your clavicles! The higher the heels, the shorter your stride should be. Save the lunging for the gym. When you make it to your seat, sit on the edge of it. It will force you to sit tall.
BODY LANGUAGE: Your body language should be directed towards your audience. If you are looking to be approached open yourself up to the room. Keep your chest angled towards center stage. The only exception for this is if you are at the bar and interested in only the attention of the bartender for a drink (and/or a month of regret). Keeping yourself open to your audience signals an easier approach, and the only thing easy about you should be the approach.
NO GUY EVER FALLS IN LOVE WITH THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD. Ah hem... seriously.
If you are on a date, angle your body language solely to him. If you're a naughty minx, you can open yourself up to the room to possibly be approached while he is in the loo, since you are so desirable... just be sure to welcome your guy back fondly and say good bye to the new dude. Poor girl, just can't be left alone! *** Naughty minxes beware of the backfire. That tactic can signal a need for attention rather than Love. ***
SMILE: A smile is the most beautiful curve on a woman's body. Plain and simple. Everyone has troubles, don't take them out on the town with you unless you can laugh about them. Guys love happy girls. If you look around a crowded room, where would you want to be? With the girl slumped in her chair, miserably playing with her hair, whining about her boss, her ex, her calorie consumption? Or with the girl who is sitting like a prize, laughing and smiling, and excitedly talking about a trip, or a project she loves? Like attracts like. Smile and someone will want to smile back at you.
You're as perfect as the next person. Don't deny yourself the credit of being a great catch. Walk tall and smile, and of course, cheers your lovelies to a great night with a whiskey ginger in your hand.
Cheers,
Whiskey Ginger Girl
Fashion, style, hair color, height, weight, complexion, etc. all add up to complete your appearance. All factors in attraction. However, if you aren't approachable in Chanel or sweatpants... honey, the problem lies within you.
I have found that the keys to being approachable, the simple fundamentals of it, are confidence, good posture, body language, and a smile.
CONFIDENCE: FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. Enter every room with your head up. Survey the room slowly. Walk tall. Good posture is often a sign of physical confidence. Anyone approaching you is more nervous and has more pride on the line, so revel in that thought!
GOOD POSTURE: Standing with bad posture is only chic in Vogue, in a Dolce & Gabbana ad. Hunch-back chic is so 2008. Relax your shoulders back and down. If you are in high heels, tuck your butt and engage your core. You look like you were skipped by evolution when you lean forward at the hips to compensate for your balance on your toes. Same goes for walking in heels, lead with your pelvis, not your clavicles! The higher the heels, the shorter your stride should be. Save the lunging for the gym. When you make it to your seat, sit on the edge of it. It will force you to sit tall.BODY LANGUAGE: Your body language should be directed towards your audience. If you are looking to be approached open yourself up to the room. Keep your chest angled towards center stage. The only exception for this is if you are at the bar and interested in only the attention of the bartender for a drink (and/or a month of regret). Keeping yourself open to your audience signals an easier approach, and the only thing easy about you should be the approach.
NO GUY EVER FALLS IN LOVE WITH THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD. Ah hem... seriously.
If you are on a date, angle your body language solely to him. If you're a naughty minx, you can open yourself up to the room to possibly be approached while he is in the loo, since you are so desirable... just be sure to welcome your guy back fondly and say good bye to the new dude. Poor girl, just can't be left alone! *** Naughty minxes beware of the backfire. That tactic can signal a need for attention rather than Love. ***
SMILE: A smile is the most beautiful curve on a woman's body. Plain and simple. Everyone has troubles, don't take them out on the town with you unless you can laugh about them. Guys love happy girls. If you look around a crowded room, where would you want to be? With the girl slumped in her chair, miserably playing with her hair, whining about her boss, her ex, her calorie consumption? Or with the girl who is sitting like a prize, laughing and smiling, and excitedly talking about a trip, or a project she loves? Like attracts like. Smile and someone will want to smile back at you.
You're as perfect as the next person. Don't deny yourself the credit of being a great catch. Walk tall and smile, and of course, cheers your lovelies to a great night with a whiskey ginger in your hand.
Cheers,
Whiskey Ginger Girl
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