You're Never Fully Dressed Without A Smile

Every woman compares herself to someone else. She is prettier than me, she has bigger boobs, she has a smaller waist, she has... I don't. She doesn't, I do..... poor girl!!! Can't catch a break! No one will love you, be attracted to you, because of one. little. flaw. that only you see! Puh-lease!

Bar Rafaeli. She was named, Maxim's "hottest" this year. She said in a recent interview that she is currently single, but that she never gets approached by guys. Possibly, too intimidating. The "hottest" woman can't get a date.... what does that tell you. Looks don't mean a thing!!! 

It's called being approachable, ladies and gentleman. When I was a young girl, going through a severe awkward time, I used to pretend I was looking out of Cindy Crawford's eyes. That gave me confidence, until I passed by a mirror and was greatly disappointed. Oh crap, who's idea was it again that I should have bangs?!??

Fashion, style, hair color, height, weight, complexion, etc. all add up to complete your appearance. All factors in attraction. However, if you aren't approachable in Chanel or sweatpants... honey, the problem lies within you.

I have found that the keys to being approachable, the simple fundamentals of it, are confidence, good posture, body language, and a smile.

CONFIDENCE: FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. Enter every room with your head up. Survey the room slowly. Walk tall. Good posture is often a sign of physical confidence. Anyone approaching you is more nervous and has more pride on the line, so revel in that thought!

GOOD POSTURE: Standing with bad posture is only chic in Vogue, in a Dolce & Gabbana ad. Hunch-back chic is so 2008.  Relax your shoulders back and down. If you are in high heels, tuck your butt and engage your core. You look like you were skipped by evolution when you lean forward at the hips to compensate for your balance on your toes. Same goes for walking in heels, lead with your pelvis, not your clavicles! The higher the heels, the shorter your stride should be. Save the lunging for the gym. When you make it to your seat, sit on the edge of it. It will force you to sit tall.

BODY LANGUAGE: Your body language should be directed towards your audience.  If you are looking to be approached open yourself up to the room. Keep your chest angled towards center stage. The only exception for this is if you are at the bar and interested in only the attention of the bartender for a drink (and/or a month of regret).  Keeping yourself open to your audience signals an easier approach, and the only thing easy about you should be the approach.
NO GUY EVER FALLS IN LOVE WITH THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD. Ah hem... seriously.
If you are on a date, angle your body language solely to him. If you're a naughty minx, you can open yourself up to the room to possibly be approached while he is in the loo, since you are so desirable... just be sure to welcome your guy back fondly and say good bye to the new dude. Poor girl, just can't be left alone! *** Naughty minxes beware of the backfire. That tactic can signal a need for attention rather than Love. ***

SMILE: A smile is the most beautiful curve on a woman's body. Plain and simple. Everyone has troubles, don't take them out on the town with you unless you can laugh about them. Guys love happy girls. If you look around a crowded room, where would you want to be? With the girl slumped in her chair, miserably playing with her hair, whining about her boss, her ex, her calorie consumption? Or with the girl who is sitting like a prize, laughing and smiling, and excitedly talking about a trip, or a project she loves? Like attracts like. Smile and someone will want to smile back at you.

You're as perfect as the next person. Don't deny yourself the credit of being a great catch. Walk tall and smile, and of course, cheers your lovelies to a great night with a whiskey ginger in your hand.

Cheers,

Whiskey Ginger Girl

The Rom-Com Phenom

After one of "those" Friday nights, you know the kind... First Friday on Abbott Kinney in Venice, vino, a bar fight because some dude disrespected you and wine was spilled on your James Perse, Modal tank, peanut basketball, and the like, you have one of "those" Saturday night's with your girls. Cooking ( I made killer brussel sprouts with bacon and kalamata olives), dogs (none that wear clothing), champagne and wine, and the all important Romantic Comedy.

Tonight, we rented "This Means War," and it was remarkable. Quite the education... we learned that the fight scene in the intro was so edited and contrived (I have seen better action in a Frosted Flakes commercial!).... Also, it was declared that I am exceptional comedic company to keep while watching such films. I am a director's dream, an "on the edge of my seat" kind of gal. Literally, I mean literally with the true and valid meaning of the word, not the Valley girl meaning of the word, I was calling out the token phrase before it was said and shrieking that I should be a screenwriter with glee. I declared during a hot sex scene that, "Blue lights! Blue lights are key, I need blue lights! Whooo!" Probably way, way more hysterical in person, however, these flicks should be watched with that sort of reverence. They are called "Rom-Com's" for a reason!! You should allow yourself that sense of whimsy and laugh, because this dating world we are in can be quite the treacherous hike.


One of my best friends showed me a pic of a girl's engagement on Facebook during a walk with our dogs yesterday... My response was a barbaric grunt and swift kick to a palm tree. I had never met the girl, yet it elicited this response! HA! Amazing... Not just for TV folks! Meanwhile, I am trying to decipher consistent, sweet text messages from the one who needed space. I am surprised HASBRO hasn't Trademarked my mind because it has been "Boggled" for 2 weeks now.

With these flicks there is the introduction, there's the dilemma, the build up, the climax, and then the resolution. Easy equation. It's interesting in your own life to know where you are at in the equation or if the equation equals ZERO. You know the introduction for the most part, sometimes the dilemma... the build up is straight forward if there is chemistry... the climax.... if you're lucky. Resolution??? Waaa Waaaaa Waaaaaaaa! He's on a night hike or something. Balderdash! (Wait, that's Mattel.) Oh these silly games....

You have to have a sense of humor about it all, and blue lights...

Cheers,

Whiskey Ginger Girl